Some of this sounds familiar. I like all the above advice. I had issues like this with both my girls. It gets better, they *mellow* a little, at least mine did. Give it 1 1/2 to 2 years and the intensity may increase. May not go away, but it will take the edge off a little.

I *trained* them to manage their intensity and when it was appropriate to let all hang loose and when they should *work* to contain it a bit.

Calm, consistent, redirecting. Did I mention calmly. That's the key IMO.