Hi Philly. I just read this and was wondering how the meeting went and if things have changed for your child at school? We find ourselves in a very similar situation: DS5 adapts himself to whatever work or level they give him and reads books silently at school so as not to get remarked on by other children... ('advanced' classmates can recognize their own name, he reads national geo kids independently at home and loves it). We have a meeting planned as well.
Our meeting ended up going very well. They started changing their approach to him even before the meeting, so we saw some increased engagement going in. They also brought in their learning specialist to the meeting.
The changes they implemented after the meeting seemed to work well. First, they changed his library options. Since many of the kids are learning to read, the class was picking books from that section of the library. DS5 reads at a 5th grade Lexile level so they opened up the entire library to him but monitored his content choices.
Also, they moved away from reading to spelling. He's a decent speller but it's more memorization of a huge number of words, rather than focusing on the phonetic breakdown and rules. They made that a point of emphasis for him.
They also added some journal work instead of writing letters and individual words. It helped him connect the non-math lessons with actual learning since he has to write down his impressions. He's never been a fan of fine motor stuff so this helps there too.
Math was less impressive but we didn't fuss there. He does Beast Academy at home and I don't mind reinforcing math basics at school. I'd rather a strong foundation at this point. Most importantly, they were very aware of his ability and let him freelance the class work rather than stick with the same script the other kids had.
The official suggestions for summer work matched his actual ability so we can't complain that this was all superficial. It'll be in his file for the Kindergarten teacher.
As for what we took in with us to the meeting itself. We brought in some of his personal reading choices and some of his at home math work. But I can't take credit for much since they brought these adjustments to us, not the other way around.
I hope that helps.
