Mm hm...zucchini meatloaf. I'd agree that taking the approach that you and school are collaboratively problem-solving, to make your daughter's educational experience better, and to optimize her behavioral contribution to the overall classroom environment, may help to take down the adversarial tendencies that so easily creep into these discussions. Actually, you might enjoy reading the original CPS (formerly collaborative problem solving, now collaborative and proactive solutions, after an unfortunate copyright dispute with Mass General Hospital) works of Dr. Ross Greene. His work is often discussed in the context of much more severe behaviors, but has value for a much wider range of free-spirited learners, as well as generally negotiating for win-win solutions. Try
www.livesinthebalance.org.
