I'm with val and aeh. Both choices have pros and cons and in the end your DS is the one that has to live with the outcome. With my kids (10 & 12) there is a big difference in the amount of complaining if it is their idea vs it being something that I pushed
We've done this a few times with bigger decisions and helped them through making lists of pros and cons and talking everything out. We've also talked through some "what if" scenarios. What's the worst thing that could happen? If it did, what could we do to change/fix it? In some cases that has made a big difference - it was more that there was some fear causing hesitation in picking the one they thought was better. When possible, we've tried to have enough time to sleep on it for a bit to see if there are any regrets.
Good luck!
