I have been dealing with DS9's immaturity/impulsiveness for a while. DH has mostly brushed it off as boy being boy.

No complaints ever from school. At home, he can get pretty wild up and hard to calm down. The worst is when he is playing with younger kids. He always acts the age of his peers. It’s frustrating to see DS behaves like a 3yo – crawling under the table, whooshing a much younger & lighter kid on a teeter totter, etc.

I hate being a helicopter parent when we have gatherings with younger kids. Once he is in that mindset of acting the age of the lowest common denominator, I can’t snap him out of it without totally removing him from the environment.

At what points is just boy being boy? He is 9, and I expect some level of emotional maturity without direct supervision. Am I expecting too much?

TIA