I'm sorry, too, ebeth. But see, I think I'd pretend I didn't hear her, smile broadly and say loudly, "Well, hello! Please, join us!"
If someone is going to snub me, I like them to do it right to my face. Most people won't. And at least it makes it clear that this is THEIR problem, not yours.
So if I invite and they decline, I shrug lightly and say, "Oh, too bad. We'll see you along the way then!" Then I walk on with my head held high.
If you don't care that someone is being a jerk, it's hard for that person to get anything out of being mean to you.
