Just a quick response before I run out the door. I'll answer polarbear's questions a bit later...

aeh- I absolutely agree we need to get a professional involved, and we plan to do this. For a number of reasons, we can't do it right now and will have to wait just a little bit. This is more for my own knowledge until we can have the formal evaluation done as I'm just trying to understand the best that I can on my own what might be going on. Not only does my mommy-gut say something is going on, but the school agrees as well as it is obvious.