Thank you for so much information! I will definitely mention to the school discrimination based on disabilities. I do know, from the IEP advocate we used in public school, that the private school can do whatever they want and make their own rules. I will also speak to the developmental specialist he sees to see if she can help. The school is familiar with her and generally takes her recommendations.

I have no idea if it is high achieving vs gifted or mixed. I never even thought of that. Since it is the first year of implementation they are starting with pulling out once a week for half a day. Next year it will be a full day once a week.

Most of DS's behavior issues are typical ADHD: talking out of turn, NEEDING to be the one to answer the question he knows the answer to, needing repetition of instructions, difficult transitions, wanting to sit and finish the work instead of moving on, thus leaving unfinished work, trouble sitting still (duh).

Any additional tips you have are welcome!