You've received a great response with valuable resources.
I'll just add a few thoughts about approaching the school.
they have honors everything, so we need to get through 1 more year of non-tracked education.
Honors classes are not necessarily "tracked" education, nor are honors or AP classes necessarily a "gifted" education program. Additionally, if a student begins underperforming (even if the underperformance is due to lack of challenge worthy of his potential), the student may not be granted placement into the desired honors/AP or other higher-level courses.
we could fight for him not to have to finish his math homework when he "gets it"
You may wish to think in terms of dropping the word
fight which implies win/lose and substituting the verb
advocate which has a more positive win/win connotation. A small change in semantics can convey a sufficiently different message to have a large impact.
Here is a link to past forum discussion on advocacy:
Analogy: Advocacy as a Non-Newtonian Fluid Here is a link to an article on the Davidson Database which discusses
teaching positive self-advocacy skills to a child:
Tips for Parents: Preparing your gifted child to leave your nest and build their own, including links to these excellent resources:
1. YouTube video,
Davidson Discussions - Self Advocacy 2.
Self-Advocacy, The Power of Speaking Up
