Thanks for all the recent replies. I have a meeting scheduled with the middle school geometry teacher (They have one geometry class each year for advanced 8th graders). The teacher sounded nice in email, and said that she was also willing to hear my expectations. This is in contrast with the advanced algebra teacher that DS had in middle school, who was down-putting and the teaching was really boring and mechanical.
I think our district is becoming more flexible in the past couple of years. When I tried to advocate for DS a few years back, it was always "this is what we do and that's it".
It's quite possible though that we will supplement with AoPS either way we go.
