I stopped dealing w/ classroom teachers and now email the case manager when there is an issue w/ one of the teachers. This depends on having a decent case manager. If the case manager is clueless or incompetent, it's hopeless. Only thing you can do is try to get transferred to a different one.
I think in these types of situations it is best to start throwing out some mild threats. For instance when the IEP team wanted to drop certain services, I started talking about needing to get a facilitated IEP (someone from the State comes in to preside over the IEP meeting--it's a free service), or an advocate to come to a meeting. you could mention needing to talk to your attorney or the department of education. If that doesn't get their attention it is probably hopeless. It is very stressful and wearisome dealing w/ all of this. Good luck.
