My question would then be - did getting the diagnosis help you in terms of helping them? I'm not hunting a diagnosis for diagnosis' sake, I more just want to know if there's something that we can look at and go ok, so we need to really work on building x and y, we have to explicitly teach these skills, he will probably always need help with b and c, type thing. I just want a better picture so that I can help him not be frustrated by - well, life - unnecessarily.
That is exactly what a full evaluation will give you. I started to type something like this yesterday, couldn't make it "sound right," and deleted the whole thing in favor of what I did post. But the idea that he shouldn't bother getting diagnosed because the accommodations that he would get don't apply in a homeschool setting is wrongheaded. The point of testing isn't to get accommodations, it's to understand how to teach the kid so that he can reach his potential.
