Originally Posted by EmeraldCity
Originally Posted by rioja
somewhat rigid teacher
Rioja, do you think he's usually defiant or could it be a reaction to her rigidity?
I think her rigidity is a big part of the problem since he really hasn't connected with her. But... He still has to learn to be respectful.


Originally Posted by rioja
He has a hard time with self control at circle time (fidgeting and not keeping his hands to himself), he's overexcited at recess which can lead to pushing, etc.
hasn't yet mastered how to control his energy
he doesn't know how to manage the feelings

The concerns you mention may be due to a combination of regulation issues and sensory sensitivities. The Alert Program can help you develop strategies to guide your child to the path of self-regulation. While the program in the first link below suggests that adults must do all the scaffolding for very young children, some gifted children may easily understand the concept and over time began to regularly employ their own strategies. YMMV.

http://www.amazon.com/Engine-Leader...sr=1-1&keywords=how+does+your+engine+run

http://www.amazon.com/Zones-Regulat...9727&sr=1-1&keywords=zones+of+regulation


IMO, the hardest emotion for very young children to manage is overexcitement, because it's so pleasurable - why stop. It sounds like your DS already sees the negative ramifications with his friends, but he needs assistance in realizing the links in this chain of events. Is there an opportunity for you to coach in the moment when you see him in a similar situation in a non-school environment? Perspective taking will help, and humor goes a long way. Some reco's below:

http://www.amazon.com/Personal-Spac...85&sr=8-8&keywords=my+mouth+is+a+volcano

http://www.amazon.com/My-Mouth-Volcano-Julia-Cook/dp/1931636850/ref=pd_bxgy_b_img_y

More importantly, what does the teacher see as HER role in the behaviors and development of solutions? Most early learning programs see teaching social and emotional skills, including self-control, thru games, activities and stories as an essential part of the program. Is she laying this entirely on your lap or contributing to compassionate solutions?

Thank you. The first program on self regulation looks great. I sent a link to the teacher and director to get their feedback. I don't think they do anything regarding actually teaching self regulation. They just expect the kids to do it, but my DS needs some direct instruction. If they don't do something of the sorts in the classroom I may do it myself at home. It's also an interesting point you made about what the teacher's role is in it. I think to date, it's just been "he needs to learn...." without any advice or ideas on how to help him learn.

THANKS