I understand all the things you are saying.
It is hard to believe what we see in our children and there is a lot of social pressure to not talk about gifted in an academic sense. Quite ok to cheer for an outstandingly sporty or musical kid because the majority of people don't feel badly about themselves if they are average at music or sport. It's socially acceptable to be average in those areas. If a child is academically out of the box, then there are those that take that as a negative judgement on their own or their children's abilities.
It's hard to talk about seeking a better academic experience, because everyone wants the best education for their children and don't see that gifted provisions aren't needed for every child. While access to gifted services is seen as some kind of competition that anyone should have the right to, rather than the provision of appropriate services then we will be made to feel like our kids are getting something better or more than other kids.
Believe in your child and do your best but you will have to pick your audience if you want to talk about your child. It's not fair and maybe it will change but I am not seeing it so far.
