Hi Portia. I also have an intense one who reacts very easily. Like bluemagic mentioned, my guy needs to unwind for at least 20 minutes by himself (usually with a book), after any sort of "event" (school, party, etc.). That said, he can still be difficult. I also worry about the teen years. Everyone tells me that my husband, who is so laid back and quiet now, used to be *exactly* like this. So I have hope.
We always have this ramp up before the end of the year, if that helps. I also found Living with Intensity to be a good read. I don't know if it helped me much, aside from knowing I wasn't alone. Worth the read in my opinion, although you won't find any magic solution contained therein.
