MoN, I think you hit the nail on the head, there-- everyone knows that failure of child-find obligation is the elephant in the room in SpEd, after all-- but it's okay since most parents don't seem to know. Well. The only ones who know are the ones whose kids have been "found." (By parents, usually... since the school isn't really looking to find eligible kids, much less define what they might actually need.)

I'm probably a bit cynical over this at this point, however.

Schrödinger's cat walks into a bar. And doesn't.