We have some of each. My parents think DD walks on water and is the perfect child and OBVIOUSLY a genius. I sometimes get the feeling they'd think this regardless of her actual LOG, but hey, I'll take it. :-) They have no problems with any of the decisions we've made or anything she's done and are generally proud doting grandparents. This despite the fact that they were pretty over-protective of me and pushed me A LOT to do more of what they thought was valuable when I was growing up.
My MIL on the other hand, thinks we are horrible, pushy, hot-housing parents and that everything we do for her is actually for us. Fortunately I don't have to talk to her much (DH handles that) and we see her almost not at all. I'm pretty sure that it comes from a place of guilt at having done nothing for her own gifted sons, despite opportunities and support.
People are interesting.
