Treasuremapper,
It sounds like homeschooling might not be the best fit for you or your family. Have you asked your questions about best school fit to either a local dr/psych who knows your dd or to a local parent advocate who knows the schools in your area? Our 2e children are at a private school which has been a wonderful fit - but it's not a school we would have been able to identify on our own as reasonable and it most likely would not have been something we'd have stumbled upon or found through asking around online. The recommendation to try it out came from our ds' neuropsych, based on her combined knowledge of his needs/challenges and having knowledge of the wide spectrum of available school options in our area. I'm not saying private school is the answer for your dd - just mentioning that having input from a professional who knew our child's challenges and who could also look at the wide variety of options objectively helped us tremendously in making school decisions.
The advocate that we used when working with our local schools was also helpful in understanding what schools would work best within the public school system, as well as helping us advocate to get the services our ds needed to be successful within the public school system.
Hope some of that helps!
polarbear
