{{HUGS}}
If it is any consolation I have heard myself say over and over "If only I knew then what I know now..." Now you do know. You are going into this armed with much, MUCH more knowledge than you did with the first one. You are going to be the expert in the room. I am going to guess that your son's experience will be quite different from your daughter's. Yes he is going to have struggles but your whole family has made it possible for him to have an easier time and I hope you can allow yourself the opportunity to feel proud of that.
Oh, and no need to feel pressured to keep things positive for us here. If ever there was a place where you can feel free to let it all out and vent I think this is probably it. We have whole bunch of big strong shoulders to cry on and can help pick up the pieces afterwards. Vent away...
