My question for DD was "what did you like about school/camp/activity this day/week"
Same result, though.
Another one--
What we say: "We only want you to do your best, honey. The results will take care of themselves if you just do your best."
What she hears: "If you do your best, you'll earn 100%. You always have. Therefore, your best is always 100%. You should never earn less than 100% on anything, and if you do, it's because you didn't give it your best effort." Oh, and also; "even on those tasks that require only a slapdash effort and a third of your full attention for a few seconds, you should do YOUR BEST. Yes, 15% of that effort is technically all that is probably needed, but you should DO YOUR BEST all the time."
Wish that I'd figured THAT one out a long, long time before I actually did. Years of hearing that subtly perverted message internally have led DD to think that the entire outside world holds her to a standard of perfection that is kinda impossible.
