don't have anything in particular to discuss that I feel can be addressed in a brief meeting.
I know that this teacher and my husband both want to help DS, the problem is that the waves of their concern interfere constructively and the result is that they GET INCREASINGLY WOUND UP!! And suddenly a discussion about long division is a red alert situation.
I would make a vivid demonstration of using their criticism as a way of setting the agenda for the next meeting. Take a notepad and pen, and ask questions.
Teacher: and he doesn't do any of the problems right!
You: I see. Which problems? does it happen every day, or only when he's already been writing a lot? (taking copious notes)
DH: if he would only buckle down it would all get done!
You: (still writing everything they say down) do you think he is choosing not to do it, or do you think there is some obstacle in his way ?
If you are having a problem-solving meeting next week, this is all evidence. If you write down their anecdotes and complaints, that's all contributing to the solving of the problem, even if it's couched in panic language.
DeeDee
