Her teacher and school psychologist are very concerned that she isn't playing with her classmates. She doesn't seem to like them at all. She says that they all have friends already, and it upsets her. She accurately reads social cues in adults and older peers, is concerned about other people's emotional states, and articulates her own emotions clearly. Unfortunately, at school she often seems overwhelmed. She regularly withdraws and plays on her own, frequently running away from teachers and peers. She also doesn't follow the teachers' instructions... ever. She just ignores her and does her own thing.
I'd see a private psychologist to sort this out, preferably one who has experience with gifted girls and autism spectrum disorders, so you can get a definitive answer.
At the very least, you want to solve the problem with not following directions and the feeling overwhelmed. That in itself would be worth seeing someone about, IMO; it's not typical behavior.
Being upset that others have friends and not following instructions can be related to Asperger's but can also be attributable to other things.
DeeDee
