master of none - I have absolutely no advice to give on the ADHD as I don't know much about it, but your comment about your daughter having a rich fantasy life and getting lost in acting out stories with her dolls and stuffed animals for hours on end reminded me of Agatha Christie's autobiography. This is exactly how she spent her days as a child!!! And look how things turned out for her!
I do think her great imagination needs to be nurtured on some sort of level, but you're right, she does need to work on compartmentalizing in order to get anything done. My DS10 has had some trouble paying attention in school (he also has a rich fantasy life!) and it turns out it is partially due to a visual disability. Things have also gotten better as he's gotten older.
Hopefully someone will have some great advice for you on ADHD.
