I'd agree with eldertree, see yourself more as a facilitator than a leader. I gave up on leading my DD long ago, I just listen, think, research to try and help her on her journey.

Also, read alot of "above level", classic stories, fairy tales... Read to them, not necessarily with them (not pointing out words etc.) Just for the stories, and the old richness of the descriptions and imagination, all the possibilites.