When I encounter a child that appears to me to be gifted, I am torn, too. It depends on the situation, but I will often say something like "wow, he really expresses himself well, doesn't he?" This is often a springboard to more discussion. If the mom seems amenable to discussion I might share a little, just to open her paradigm a bit. If she seems really interested I might email a file I keep for just such occasions! Several people I have decided to approach persued the options, most do not. But, if it makes a difference to some, then it is worth it.
Susan in Reno
