I think there is a huge difference between frustration and disappointment that you don't have the motor skills, experience, and/or stamina to manifest the product that you see in your mind's eye, which I think is common among young gifted children and absolutely not a learned behavior, and the kind of perfectionism where a child is reluctant to even share their thoughts about a question because they might be wrong, or reluctant to try something new because they don't know how to do it yet, which is very often a learned behavior, generally due to the child being praised for being right, for demonstrating mastery, and for being smart, rather than for working hard and being willing to try new things.
