thanks guys - we are not religious - i have tried talking with him sharing that many different religions have different beliefs - I have been trying to find information on line about different religious beliefs about death and it can be a little overwhelming looking everything up :-) Thanks for the reincarnation comment ultramarina - he likes to take in information and then process it - but trying to tow the line of giving him too much information so i don't make matters worse can be difficult :-) the prayer would definitely freak him out since falling asleep is a big problem for him :-) Thanks for sharing