II didn't see any reason to cause her anxiety about changing schools and possibly confuse her. I figured as soon as I know where she's going, I'll take her there and get her excited about that environment.
I did exactly the same thing. I went to see a few schools on my own even though the principals sounded rather surprised. I wanted him to see only place(s) which I liked. No need to confuse him.
We dropped a few hints here and there and it has worked really nice. He has the whole picture now. He seems very happy about hs. He also knows that we are looking for a school where he could go for a few lessons. Right now we have one option and trying for one more.
The problem is that DD told my husband a couple of days ago that she was not going to K next year; but instead would be in the preschool mornings and attending "enrichment" (child care) in the afternoons. When he asked her why she said that, she responded that "teacher 1" and "teacher 2" had told her and they said she's not ready for K.
I would be furious. It wasn't their place to say things like that. I agree it may be better to keep quiet and talk about it at the end of the school year, if you still want to. For the very same reason I may not ready tell my DSs' teachers what exactly we are planning to do next year. I think I will say something like "We are considering different options, may be even ..." if I am asked about it.
I would use the situation to your advantage when it comes to your daughter though. It could nicely explain why she is not going back to M. I would tell her that M Kindergarten may not be the best fit for her just like her teachers said, but that you found a school, which you think will be exactly what she needs right now and she can attend K there.
