Okay...
this made me cry. Ouch. I'm pretty sure that my 11yo hasn't learned most of that, and we've been desperately trying for the last seven years... but she (like a lot of kids) isn't too happy about learning some of those things. We hear endlessly about "letting her be a kid" and the like, without any apparent understanding that we are just hoping for her to learn the relationships between her character and actions-- and
results. 
Instead, she's learned:
a) if it isn't easy, I must not be good at it, so I won't try and you can't make me
b) I can't look less than perfect, because that might mean that I'm not really as smart as everyone seems to think that I am
c) Education is about showing off what you know
d) Education isn't about novelty
e) school is about not getting tripped up so that you don't get less than 100%
f) "not knowing" makes me feel stupid, and I don't like that feeling. Ergo, I don't like it when I don't already know something
g) I should avoid risks, since that is what leads to feeling stupid after I make mistakes,
e) most of life is about busywork.
Sad.
