thank you guys so much for your input I am going to take your advice i just told my husband last week that my son is still learning and we should take it easy on him. he has been in the gifted program at school for now 1 month and he is doing very well,(better than i thought) I have also came up with a rountine before and after school as far as backpack placement homework placement ect...so that is working as well.so i thank you again.....