The third choice that my DD was pushing for without actually saying it involved giving a spot already taken by a much older child to DD. DD knew if she made big enough of a scene, the older child who is a real sweet heart would have felt pressured to yield to her but her teacher wasn't having it. Yes, I realize I have an extremely manipulative child.

DD now gets to "park" her concerns/objections until a designated time and discuss them for a limited amount of time 1:1 with her teacher. It seems to be working for now and I like that DD is learning to calmly state her position after a cool down period. I should try this at home too.

We've tried to explain to DD about how relationships work at home and school but you know, she doesn't exactly accept that things need to remain the same.