Ugh- can I just say that the pediatric ophthalmologist was the worst experience *ever* for my DS? Very similar, and the man could not adjust his approach. You could tell it never entered his mind to actually explain anything, he was visibly irritated when DS asked questions and we also had the babyish tv characters waved all over, etc. Unfortunately, we had to tolerate him for several years- kids were overjoyed when they were allowed to graduate to an adult ophthalmologist.

Quite a difference from the dentist, I must add- DS loves that place, and always emerges with a pile of disposable stuff, newly acquired knowledge about all the gadgetry and a gleam in his eye- the people there are remarkably patient and understanding.