My oldest asked to "sleep" over his friend's house last night. I hate sleep overs because they basically have nothing to do with sleep. They play xbox all night and come home grumpy the next day. I was starting to whine about that to ds and he said, "if you want to say no, just say no" (basically I needed to make the decision & not complain). I think there's a little comfort in someone else deciding these things (at least for ds).