Educating the teacher - washout - 10/08/14 06:06 PM
After getting my advice here on how to communicate with DD9's 4th grade teacher, we met with her on Monday. We were concerned with the fact that DD's report card had some 2's in reading and her beginning of year language arts assessment had dropped as well. We were worried about the fact that DD says she doesn't want to go to school and does not like this particular teacher. We also planned on telling the teacher that DD had been diagnosed with ADHD inattentive type. Upon the advice here, I did not bombard the teacher with loads of gifted info - just one little sheet with the symptoms of ADHD inatt. I will list what happened, and I can't wait to hear comments from you all!
DH spoke. He gave a little background on DD9 and before I could stop him explained that DD had been found high gifted and what her IQ was. He's proud of DD and having not read posts here, did not know that teachers aren't so interested in that information. She wasn't. She didn't blink. She didn't ask any questions about that.
I asked about the 2's on the report card. The teacher said that page was a mistake - we got someone else's L.A. page. The teacher explained away the low score on the reading assessment with the idea that kids forget a lot over the summer. The teacher did say it was like pulling teeth to get DD to respond to the questions on the assessment. That would align with the fact that DD tells me she just shrugs when asked things by the teacher.
DH explained that DD was miserable at school. The teacher talked about how she works with the whole family so the child can be happy. She asked why DD was unhappy. She said that DD always seems cheerful and engaged in class. I explained that DD is a kid who will never show her feelings at school. I read DD's list of problems with school (never get to learn anything new, teacher saying same things over and over), and ultimately the teacher said DD needed a psychologist to help her.
When we asked if DD could receive more challenging work as her Lexile reading scores indicated that she was working at a higher level than 4th (it's a 7th grade or more level)and that her previous teacher had pushed for DD to get more difficult work, the teacher said "DD will have to prove that she can do even 4th grade work." before she can get higher level assignments.
Finally, the teacher said that if DD wanted to do some of her work "outside the box", DD would have to come up with an idea and ask permission of the teacher. At that point the teacher insisted that DD come in, and she questioned DD about much of the above plus asked her if she did like the work and school. DD looked like a deer caught in the headlights. She was stiff and agreed that all was well in class.
SO!! I didn't think it went well....and DD acted out later after all that, poor sweetie.
Had a meeting with the psychologist the next day, told her everything that went on in the class, and she, after looking at even more of DD's tests, report cards, etc. stated that we needed to contact the school and the county's gifted dept. and ask that DD be grade skipped up to 5th. She will even work with DD's older sister who is upset that DD is already in some of her classes at school. So, I have homework here - need to write out emails to the appropriate people at the school and the county school district office. This has me pretty nervous for sure!! Big meeting ahead in about 2 weeks.
DH spoke. He gave a little background on DD9 and before I could stop him explained that DD had been found high gifted and what her IQ was. He's proud of DD and having not read posts here, did not know that teachers aren't so interested in that information. She wasn't. She didn't blink. She didn't ask any questions about that.
I asked about the 2's on the report card. The teacher said that page was a mistake - we got someone else's L.A. page. The teacher explained away the low score on the reading assessment with the idea that kids forget a lot over the summer. The teacher did say it was like pulling teeth to get DD to respond to the questions on the assessment. That would align with the fact that DD tells me she just shrugs when asked things by the teacher.
DH explained that DD was miserable at school. The teacher talked about how she works with the whole family so the child can be happy. She asked why DD was unhappy. She said that DD always seems cheerful and engaged in class. I explained that DD is a kid who will never show her feelings at school. I read DD's list of problems with school (never get to learn anything new, teacher saying same things over and over), and ultimately the teacher said DD needed a psychologist to help her.
When we asked if DD could receive more challenging work as her Lexile reading scores indicated that she was working at a higher level than 4th (it's a 7th grade or more level)and that her previous teacher had pushed for DD to get more difficult work, the teacher said "DD will have to prove that she can do even 4th grade work." before she can get higher level assignments.
Finally, the teacher said that if DD wanted to do some of her work "outside the box", DD would have to come up with an idea and ask permission of the teacher. At that point the teacher insisted that DD come in, and she questioned DD about much of the above plus asked her if she did like the work and school. DD looked like a deer caught in the headlights. She was stiff and agreed that all was well in class.
SO!! I didn't think it went well....and DD acted out later after all that, poor sweetie.
Had a meeting with the psychologist the next day, told her everything that went on in the class, and she, after looking at even more of DD's tests, report cards, etc. stated that we needed to contact the school and the county's gifted dept. and ask that DD be grade skipped up to 5th. She will even work with DD's older sister who is upset that DD is already in some of her classes at school. So, I have homework here - need to write out emails to the appropriate people at the school and the county school district office. This has me pretty nervous for sure!! Big meeting ahead in about 2 weeks.