A lot of people we know used Fred Provenzano. He does a lot of testing for a couple of the local gifted schools, so he does see a lot of gifted kids. Our son seemed to work well with him, fwiw. I don't think I'd call him nurturing, but he's friendly and approachable for the kids. We liked him well enough to use him a couple of times and would probably use him again if we feel the need for additional testing. I just asked my son and the first word that he used to describe Dr. Fred (as he goes by) was "friendly."

There is also an older woman who works in his office who I saw interacting with a child in the waiting room as she was bringing him back from a testing break. I was impressed by her manner with him--I would describe her as warm and encouraging. She did comment a fair amount to the child about how well he'd done, which could be a plus or a minus, depending on your child's personality.

We used Belle Chenault. She was very warm and engaging. She also re-tested a section where she thought my son did not perform as well as she had expected.

There are also Drs. Brock and Fernette Eide. http://www.neurolearning.com/

There's Dr. Meera Shin in Bellevue. English is not her first language, so if you think your dd might have a problem understanding someone with an accent, you might want to look elsewhere. But she's as warm and engaging as they come.

Fernette and Brock are excellent and thoughtful -- second the recommendation.