Underestimated child? - 10/30/18 03:33 PM
DD13 DYS has always been the child in our family who just screamed (sometimes literally) that things were not working right at school. DD14 is our compliant, people pleasing, incredibly studious child. 2 very different kids. DD13 grade skipped into DD14's grade a few years ago, and DD14 has mixed feelings about this especially when she gets the questions, "What, is your sister so smart?" or "Are you not as smart?"" or other versions of those. She ultimately has taken away the idea that she is "not smart." It's very painful. We process this with her, but she still feels negative about her intellect. BTW, the girls are not genetically related so a similar IQ would not apply.
The question I have pondered more lately: are we underestimating DD14? Have we not advocated enough for her? The girls are at a fairly rigorous private high school where DD14 gets 99's and 100's. DD13 gets 95's -97's. Their MAP scores were very similar with DD14 getting higher math scores (she loves math), and DD13 doing better in LA. The big difference between the 2 were the Lexile scores with DD13 getting 200 points higher. I wonder though - DD14 works so hard for those scores. She studies much longer than we (or her teachers) wish for her. DD13 never studies. She doesn't have to. DD14 feels like a moderately gifted high achieving child to DD13's highly gifted incredibly research driven (if it's interesting to her) kid. I have this feeling that if DD14 received higher level work she would become more stressed. I am begging the school to challenge DD13. I believe I am answering my own question, but I still wonder.
The question I have pondered more lately: are we underestimating DD14? Have we not advocated enough for her? The girls are at a fairly rigorous private high school where DD14 gets 99's and 100's. DD13 gets 95's -97's. Their MAP scores were very similar with DD14 getting higher math scores (she loves math), and DD13 doing better in LA. The big difference between the 2 were the Lexile scores with DD13 getting 200 points higher. I wonder though - DD14 works so hard for those scores. She studies much longer than we (or her teachers) wish for her. DD13 never studies. She doesn't have to. DD14 feels like a moderately gifted high achieving child to DD13's highly gifted incredibly research driven (if it's interesting to her) kid. I have this feeling that if DD14 received higher level work she would become more stressed. I am begging the school to challenge DD13. I believe I am answering my own question, but I still wonder.