My Son being bullied Bullying - Advice please - 11/29/09 04:50 AM
I would like to share an email I sent to my son's class teacher and the reply, and wonder what people think of the reply and the best next step. Here goes, my email:
You recall I emailed you last week after Ben giving xxxx a hard time at Quarry Bank and he came home sobbing...well
We had an incident tonight where a group of xxxx's classmates came running up to me outside the school gate saying xxxx had been dragged to the floor by Ben and there was a fight. xxxx came out a little bedraggled, and it appears Ben was waiting for him outside the classroom to have a fight.
Yesterday xxxx came home with a bloody knee. Apparently , after some name calling" Ben took it upon himself to push xxxx to the floor and drag him along.
On Wednesday xxxx came home with a large bruise on his leg where Ben had deliberately banged into xxxx playing at "aeroplanes ramming xxxx" - this seems to be a favourite.
This is becoming a daily occurrence and it is bullying. xxxx won't tell, I have told him not to retaliate, and it is only a matter of time before he is too scared to go to school.
I have told xxxx to sort things out himself, but this has gone far enough. I am afraid somebody (xxxx) is going to get seriously hurt
teachers response:
I've just got back from my course on Child Protection and read your email....obviously I've no idea what's been going on ...but I'll find out on Tuesday!
I did speak to the boys about behaviour following your email and this has obviously had no effect. I'll have a chat with xxxx on Tuesday and find out what's been going on. xxxx isn't helping himself though as I watched him last Thursday starting a silly game and then, when it didn't quite go his way, he started to sulk. It was actually during a PE/Science lesson when he was supposed to be exercising by running on the spot - he started some silly poking game. There was also another game which he got involved in involving vampires and, again, when it didn't go his way, he was not happy.
I will have a word with the boys (and xxxx too) in the hope that we can get this sorted.
My concern is this - do people think there is a hint of my son "asking for it"? What do you think my response should be - am I being too sensitive? The teacher has said before that my son tends to get unhappy when things don't go his way. Also, the vampire game - my son got upset when the 3 boys he was playing with him started to bite him.
You recall I emailed you last week after Ben giving xxxx a hard time at Quarry Bank and he came home sobbing...well
We had an incident tonight where a group of xxxx's classmates came running up to me outside the school gate saying xxxx had been dragged to the floor by Ben and there was a fight. xxxx came out a little bedraggled, and it appears Ben was waiting for him outside the classroom to have a fight.
Yesterday xxxx came home with a bloody knee. Apparently , after some name calling" Ben took it upon himself to push xxxx to the floor and drag him along.
On Wednesday xxxx came home with a large bruise on his leg where Ben had deliberately banged into xxxx playing at "aeroplanes ramming xxxx" - this seems to be a favourite.
This is becoming a daily occurrence and it is bullying. xxxx won't tell, I have told him not to retaliate, and it is only a matter of time before he is too scared to go to school.
I have told xxxx to sort things out himself, but this has gone far enough. I am afraid somebody (xxxx) is going to get seriously hurt
teachers response:
I've just got back from my course on Child Protection and read your email....obviously I've no idea what's been going on ...but I'll find out on Tuesday!
I did speak to the boys about behaviour following your email and this has obviously had no effect. I'll have a chat with xxxx on Tuesday and find out what's been going on. xxxx isn't helping himself though as I watched him last Thursday starting a silly game and then, when it didn't quite go his way, he started to sulk. It was actually during a PE/Science lesson when he was supposed to be exercising by running on the spot - he started some silly poking game. There was also another game which he got involved in involving vampires and, again, when it didn't go his way, he was not happy.
I will have a word with the boys (and xxxx too) in the hope that we can get this sorted.
My concern is this - do people think there is a hint of my son "asking for it"? What do you think my response should be - am I being too sensitive? The teacher has said before that my son tends to get unhappy when things don't go his way. Also, the vampire game - my son got upset when the 3 boys he was playing with him started to bite him.