How to handle the judgement? - 04/05/13 05:19 PM
Hi. I'm feeling especially frustrated today and hoping for a fresh perspective. I have two DDs, one 8yo who I've posted a bit about here, and another who is almost 3. The younger one is really giving me a run for my money these days, very much like her sister did at the same age. She is EXTREMELY stubborn, constantly testing, testing, testing. It's hard enough to deal with her, but when when you add in the judgement and comments from others, I just about lose my mind.
Yesterday as we were leaving preschool, DD had a fit because she wanted to play with another child's backpack. They had a tug-o-war over it, with my DD screaming at the top of her lungs. When we finally settled it and started heading out, another mom commented to me that my DD is getting "mouthy" and "sassy". I'm sure that mom didn't mean to ruin my day, but my day was ruined. I would never comment like that to another parent. I'm doing my very best with a very difficult child. DD is just MORE of everything and other parents mostly don't get it. I just remarked that she's certainly no shrinking violet, and left as quickly as I could.
We have incidents like this all the time and I hate it. I feel like I'm out of control of my parenting. 8yo was like this, too, and it was hard. She did eventually grow out of it and is (mostly) lovely now, but those years of being judged were really tough. Now it looks like younger DD is headed down the same road and I honestly dread it.
Sorry to ramble... Anyone going through something similar?
Yesterday as we were leaving preschool, DD had a fit because she wanted to play with another child's backpack. They had a tug-o-war over it, with my DD screaming at the top of her lungs. When we finally settled it and started heading out, another mom commented to me that my DD is getting "mouthy" and "sassy". I'm sure that mom didn't mean to ruin my day, but my day was ruined. I would never comment like that to another parent. I'm doing my very best with a very difficult child. DD is just MORE of everything and other parents mostly don't get it. I just remarked that she's certainly no shrinking violet, and left as quickly as I could.
We have incidents like this all the time and I hate it. I feel like I'm out of control of my parenting. 8yo was like this, too, and it was hard. She did eventually grow out of it and is (mostly) lovely now, but those years of being judged were really tough. Now it looks like younger DD is headed down the same road and I honestly dread it.
Sorry to ramble... Anyone going through something similar?