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I would not call that lashing out nor an attack. Yes, I did take it personally and so would anyone else who suffers from this disorder. There are far too many people like her that make these kind of judgements out of pure ignorance. Forgive me but I do not believe that this should be rewarded.
You will find that I did add some important information along with a suggestion. What more can I do.

Timothy:

Forgive me for interjecting, but I don't believe that a more diplomatic response would have been "rewarding" Kristianna in any fashion.

I thought that the additional information was helpful, and could have been even more so had it been included in your original response.

Water under the proverbial bridge, perhaps, but I think that a different approach from the outset would have been less grating.

For example:

Well Kristianna.
Hi, Kristianna:

You have certainly demonstrated your ignorance.
I don't mean to sound harsh, but I think you might be mistaken.

ADHD/ADD do in fact exist and has been medically proven.
I believe that the medical community has already proven the existence of ADHD/ADD. From my reading, I understand that it is a neurological issue and is caused by a Beta/Theta brainwave imbalance.

It would be a good idea for you to learn more about this disorder before you start posting responses like this.
You don't have to take my word for it. Instead, here are a few places you could find additional information:
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There are two reasons for my harshness in this reply.
This may sound like I am taking this a bit personally, and perhaps I am, but for a couple of good reasons.

Firstly, because your post is disrespectful and an insult to people like myself who have been fighting with this disorder all their lives.

Firstly, I've been fighting with this disorder my entire life, so your post seemed disrespectful and insulting to me. I don't mean to speak for an entire community, but this is how I felt. I hope you can understand.

And secondly, because you are providing an uneducated response to an important topic that could be misguiding those individuals who are reading these posts.

Secondly, I think that if you could read a little further on the subject of ADHD/ADD, you could easily understand how your comments might be misleading others reading these posts in the future.

In the future, please take the time to research something before you respond.

Again, I don't mean for this to be combative, although I suppose my response could be viewed as such. I often encounter comments from those who, perhaps, have not read as much on the topic as I would like, and -- I admit -- it is frustrating at times.

I respect the opinions of those who might think that ADHD/ADD is over-diagnosed and/or over-medicated, but for me -- and countless others like me -- ADHD/ADD is very real, and learning to live with this condition provides a constant daily struggle like so many other medical conditions.

Dandy, that was very well said. You really have a nice way of putting things.

That being said, I found the original comment that sparked this controversy interesting, and not too snarky in tone. OTOH, I agree with Timothy that ADD is a genuine medical issue. I do hope to hear more from both posters, as I appreciate hearing different points of view.

Thank you, Dandy. That's it exactly!

The saying "You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar" comes to mind. Polite speech is far more persuasive than nastiness.

I agree that I think this is a worthwhile discussion. I don't want anyone--on either side--to shut someone down.