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Our issue is we don't know if it's school, environment or kid. I'm thinking maybe we need help to identify the source.
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Food for thought, it could be a combination of those things or something totally different. I think you're on the right track in terms of figuring it out.
Good luck.
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Hi Crisc,
Our experience is that one may have to try a few before a right fit is found. I agree with Ebeth; find one that comes recommended and understands gifted issues. Years after, I still believe that if there is not a right educational placement, a psych. will not make everything all better if a child is prone to anxiety. One can help the child cope a bit. Our psych helped by testing and by testifying for us in our case against the district. In that respect, one would provide your credibilty and documentation. We began taking him to a psychologist when he was 7, because he had difficulty swallowing due to anxiety. A boy in his class told him he would break into our house and kill his mother. Later, he developed rage and OCD which I now believe was caused by misplacement (IQ 153 at 7yrs.) and relentless, daily bullying. He had just one friend. He was ostracized at the lunch table because he talked about a Nova show he'd seen. He was, of course, viewed as a freak and suffered for it. He is 27 now and doing well although a fear of germs crops up when one of his students is sick. He manages it well through rational thinking. When they are young children, they don't have the thought patterns to manage. I empathize. That whole period was stressful on the whole family.
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[quote=crisc]Does anyone use a counselor or psychiatrist for their gifted children?
We are just starting to look for a psychologist for our 4 year old also - that is what led me to this site, actually. We are not largely informed about challenges with gifted children and we are so grateful for advice from those parents who have worked through some of the potential challenges - and if you know of a psychologist listing with a focus on gifted children that would be great. Our son started reading just before turning two and has also demonstrated a great deal of ability with numbers and music. Though he is very social, he is deeply sensitive and when children his age are unkind I think he has a hard time expressing his feelings and lately has been acting out quite a bit. In general he has been feeling frustrated and angry and in situations where he is bothered by us asking him to do something (brush teeth, put on clothes) he now just breaks down often. I think he is profoundly aware of our frustrations and knows how to tweek the situation. Sometimes I believe he also just has a hard time knowing what are his feelings and what are ours. Anyway. Long note - but first time sharing this with others who have gifted children... Thank you for your input.
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This is where I always send people: http://www.hoagiesgifted.org/psychologists.htmThese are recs from parents who have used the psychs, not ads. If you find a new one not on the list whom you like, please take the time to recommmend him/her to Hoagies. The more options that GT families have, the better I think. I recommended our marvelous tester and she's now on the list.
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Crisc,
I just thought of something else. If you need to take court action, it protects your side so they can't point a finger at you and say the parents never took him to a psych/counselor. Sorry, but they can fight dirty. The psych may in fact be your ammo, backup. For an example: I have a degree in Eng. Ed, worked as a teacher, yet took a part time waitress job while I was beginning actor's training. In the courttoom, their lawyer announced that "his mother is a waitress" and omitted my degree in educ. and that I had been a teacher before I had the kids.
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Thanks for the advice everyone. Our initial appt is on Tuesday. I already gave the intake coordinator the basics of DS5 and already told her that my son does not immediately respect all adults--adults need to earn his trust and respect. After the initial appt if he needs weekly visits they will factor that in.
His K teacher also called me on Friday due to an incident that happened on the way home from the field trip that morning. She said she wasn't concerned about the initial behavior (pushing another child) but she was more concerned about the fit that happened after he was told to stop pushing. He sat on the curb and refused to move, screaming that he was a maniac, and a troublemaker. Obviously with 2 K classes walking back to school, this refusal to move behavior was not going to be tolerated by the teachers. Once the teacher spent time with him and calmed him down she said he was absolutely fine for the rest of the morning but since she told him she would be calling me she had to follow through. She has already realized that the best way to deal with DS5 is to make him a helper. He gets to read to the other children when he finishes his work. She also told me that because she has been assessing all the children she has not had time to give him any differentiation of work from the other children. I guess I should be happy she realizes that he needs it--although I don't think she can provide it. Our P/T conference is next Monday.
Another thing I noticed this morning was that DS5 was bouncing off the walls looking for trouble--throwing things, teasing his siblings. I handed him DH's new IPod Touch and DS5 spent almost an hour playing with the calculator. He eventually ended up making it count up by 5's to a million--he only got to 10,000 before he had togo to soccer but I couldn't believe the change in his whole attitude and demeanor. He was so pleasant once he got the change to do something to stimulate his brain. Asking him to get dressed in his soccer clothes was so peaceful. I really want my peaceful boy back.
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Yeah Crisc - I know exactly what you mean! Grins
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I hope the appt. goes well and your family gets some useful info to help the situation.
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We have met with a psychologist over the last two months and it's been great. He does specialize in gifted children and underachievement. My main reason for the initial visit was the behavioral issues (which we have now learned are emotional issues) with the gifted issues as a secondary reason. He has a wonderful perspective on the topic and has provided great insight. I also wanted a partner to speak to the teacher and school staff as I feel inadequate doing so. We had our first meeting with the teacher yesterday and it went great. Our DD6's teacher is very receptive to new ideas. So I think this is going to be a good fit.
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