Ah, gotcha.
I can't say in our case. I'm the one who generally does the talking in meetings with the school, and if the staff think I'm enmeshed, they're not saying. One of my DD's teachers did use the word "involved" in a way that would have been written in italics, though. I was hearing helicopter blades, but enmeshment may have been closer to her design. She used it to describe both of us, not just me.
Of course, as a dad, the bar is set pretty low, and knowing my DD's teachers' names is considered awesome parenting.
