Wow, I got swamped at work and only just now have had the chance to follow up on this thread. Interesting that some people see no distinction and others do. I actually do see a distinction, but I had to reread my original post to see why this thread went in this direction. I see that it was unclear in my post, but I actually didn't intend to ask whether the specific comment should be addressed with her, but rather the more general negative atmosphere in the classroom that this statement illustrates. He was clearly wrong (I am not defending his behavior).
It's not even so much the comment itself, but the significant degree of frustration with him that it suggests. This, coupled with the incredibly negative comments in his midquarter grade sheet, makes me really glad that school is almost done. But, I am not sure what to do about this. I feel like I should say something to her (but probably NOT any of the things I am thinking right now!).
This is more my concern. He seems to have checked out and escapes into his book. Her primary complaint in the progress report is that he is presenting minimal effort in his schoolwork and "wanders" when he should be working. His grades range from Bs to A+s, with the exception of participation grades which are generally Cs and Bs (but these reflect her perspective that he is not putting in enough effort). There were NO positive comments on the grade report. I think she feels that he is smart enough to get A+s on everything (which of course he is) and isn't satisfied with his show of effort that results in Bs and up. The rude boy comment was only concerning to me because it seemed to illustrate a greater degree of frustration with him than I expected. But, your comments reminded me that her level of frustration at that moment may have been coming from other sources as well and he and I did talk about that.
I actually did email her (not about the rude comment but about the comments on the grade report), asking for a brainstorming session on how we can get him more engaged, what strategies she's tried, asking the gifted teacher for help. Her response was not really satisfactory and I am of the mindset at this point to simply focusing on trying to get him a teacher next year that gets him. He used to be such an enthusiastic learner and I see that dying out, which really bothers me. I am not implying that this is her fault, I think it happens a lot at this age, but I don't feel like she has addressed it in a way that will inspire him to re-engage in her class. And I have seen other teachers that can and do. So hopefully he will get a teacher next year that is a better fit for him. I have a meeting with the gifted teacher next year to see if she is able to influence his placement, since our district is insistent that parents get no say in such decisions.
Thanks for your comments. Sorry for the confusion. I'd love ideas/strategies on how to encourage more than "minimal effort" at school and help keep him invested in school rather than just putting in the minimum and then checking out mentally. That is my biggest concern here.