My DD9 has shocking memory, early reader, you forget her age when you're talking to her, often described as unique, creative...school has been a huge "bear" all along!
As far as school is concerned, she has had changes from private pre-K to public, to homeschooling, back to public in a new district, then to private. She is an "uneven" gifted though, we are still working on finding out if she has other exceptionalities that she must compensate for that cause fatigue and dancing around issues especially now writing as the grades get higher, that can look like arguing or avoiding.
Alot of it comes down to the individual teacher and if there are problems, the flexibility of the principal to accelerate/move classrooms, etc. I've found that consistency and fairness is very important but not rigidity - it just doesn't work with these kids.
If you're going to a private school do you have ones to choose from? Could your DD shadow or go to open houses? Then you could see the interaction between child and environment and adults.
Whatever the outcome, it's always better to try to make things better than not try anything at all.
Finally, if you're not doing this already I would make sure your DD has things outside of school that she gets positive feedback for (classes at museums, parks&Rec, dancing, art, music, sports) I think for my DD the troubles and the changes could have had a much worse affect on her if she didn't have a steady stream of alternative feedback/experiences that have balanced it out.
Last edited by bzylzy; 01/22/13 06:21 PM.