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The website is schoolsuccesssolution.com
And the idea is to encourage people to hire me to coach them to help their children succeed at school. My business buddy says I need a website show what I can do so that I can help people one to one. I have the idea that there are a lot of bright and gifted kids out there that would never come here because 'the g word' so these seems like a good way to use what I've figured out for good.

Thanks Mammabear!

schoolsuccesssolutions.com Better get in the habit of not leaving out the last 's' when you type it!

I'm worried about the things I've heard about zero tolerance for fighting along with stories I've heard about bullying and cruelty. My husband wants my son to fight back if there's any problems because that's how he was raised and he doesn't want our kids to be pushed around. I don't want my kids to get in trouble for being in a fight they didn't start. I have told him, don't hit or push back. Hold your hands out in front of you and say very loudly, "stop! Don't hurt me!" loudly, so everyone can hear you. Will that work? What can I do to bully-proof my kid and keep him from breaking a zero tolerance policy against fighting back?

La Tex - I love that Q and A.
@ElizabethN Great Pointer!!! ((red face))
Today I found out that I'm unable to read any email that gets sent to Grinity@schoolsuccesssolutions.com because of ((mumble IP address,mumble mumble, points to, mumble mumble MX Record Pack))

I'm hoping the nice people at tec support will bail me out soon.
I'm taking it as an opportunity to 'breath through' my perfectionism.

Smiles,
Grinity

Go Tec Support! Thanks to the good people at GoDaddy and Workpress I now have working email, and a few new post. I feel like I'm walking on air!

There really is no better feeling that succeeding at something that at first seems way way waay too hard.

May you all have this experience on a regular basis!
Grinity

Grinity
I have always appreciated your thoughtfulness and willingess to share and learn from your own trials and tribulations. While you have given 1000s of pearls, many of which I quote to DH, the ones that I have found most useful are the how to talk to people comments - you are or have become an incredible translator for school speak especially for IEP, 2e and gifted scenarios. I think you could have a tab which emphasizes the different points of view and how those different points of view can lead to a lack of progress, understanding etc, and offer scenarios or suggestions of how to move around it.

Sounds like a great use of your skills and experience!

DeHe

Thanks for the encouragement DeHe ((big smile))
I did my best to convert it to a wider audience and it's up!

The "don't fight back" doesn't work.

I know. I tried it. Fail.

Also, the "stop! Don't hurt me!" sounds, uh, ineffective.

Let them get in trouble if that's the price to pay for fighting back in a fight they didn't start.

I think that you *can't* both bully proof your kid and not violate a zero tolerance policy, so I recommend throwing out the zero tolerance policy.

I agree with this part, but I'm not an expert in these matters. And I doubt anyone will give me a vote in this one. Have your read 'Rash?'
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I think that with legs spread wide, and arms in 'halt' position, that

STOP. DO NOT HIT ME.

Could be very effective. It's more about the tone of voice and posture than the words. It's interesting that La Tex's advice is exactly the same that I got from a wise mom with older children when my son was about 8. I could never convince my son to try it, so I don't have a real datapoint. My hunch is that any kid who was well trained by about age 4 to react in this way would probably not have an opportunity to find out if it worked. So much in life is not the words, but the nonverbals.
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