Thanks for the advice. The principal, who moved up from the elementary school where we were and knows me well, backed me up this time. He sent me an email letting me know he'd seen the email, was appalled and would accommodate us with whatever choice we made - whether to move my son to a new teacher, to work through the problems with this teacher or have him tutored one-on-one during that period. I think he's very aware with the comments in writing that it could go poorly for him as an administrator, but I have no desire to throw anyone under the bus. I just don't want my son in a class with a teacher who will not acknowledge that accommodations are not cheating and that disabilities do not equal poor learner.
We have a conference scheduled for next week (it was my choice whether the teacher was there or not, so I asked that she be included). It will involve the head of the special ed department, the teacher, my husband and I and the principal.
I said that I wanted this to be a learning experience for all involved and that I wanted to work through it if possible - but not at the detriment of my son's progress and confidence. Whether my son stays in her class after this or not, it is vital that the teacher learn from this experience so that she can be a better fit for someone else who may enter her class who has a learning disability.
