Great advice, thanks for all of the words of wisdom and empathy.
And thanks for the link DeeDee, it was helpful to see what those colleges offer. That, in addition to printing this out and going through the diagnostic recommendations should get us on track. Part of me thinks finding an adult on campus that she could get to know and trust and check in with periodically might be all she needs in that particular environment.
We sat down with one of the teachers, she was very nice about it and offered to sign an emergency withdrawal. She also said that her summer course has only about 40 students so it should be much less intimidating and it starts later in the day so traffic shouldn't be such an issue. I was really impressed at how DD stepped up to the plate on this and described her situation and what she wanted to do about it. After the meeting, DD said "wow, she was really nice, now I really regret missing out on her class".
Grinity, I did ask about the high transfer rate, and was told it's mostly due to students wanting to specialize or deciding they don't want to take 4 years of one subject. I asked what happens if a kid isn't cutting it and was told they don't get expelled, they are just are told what they need to do to get caught up if they want to come back. I feel very confident that my DD will fit well there. I attended a seminar and a day on campus and it felt like I was surrounded by many quirky Aspies and ADD gifties, it was so awesome, like visiting my DD's home planet. Some kids were even quietly knitting in seminar and no one frowned on them.
August can't come soon enough (assuming we get through this.. er little "snafu" successfully)
