@AlexsMom, I do think that there is a boy-girl component because she doesn't seem to be having the same issues on a massive group project where she happened to get in a group of four girls. They have negotiated through some tough differences and seem to have a good group dynamic. Maybe they all have a similar work ethic and it's just a coincidence that they are all girls?
@Grinity, thanks for pointing out that I am asking for her to be "less like she is and more like I want her to be?" I have to look at that and also will look at the book. I have viewed "The Last Lecture" but don't recall much about the skills for working well in a group. I guess that I should revisit that as well.
