When DS7 asks for help, I give it to him. I do this because I know my son and know that he has put in the time and effort himself prior to asking. He doesn't like to ask for help, he believes that he should be able to do everything himself.
He is 6 years ahead to grade level in math and I can't even fathom being in his shoes.

So maybe it depends on the child...........

Shari
Mom to DS 10, DS 11, DS 13
Ability doesn't make us, Choices do!