Thank you all for your support and advice. I guess one of the things that makes it difficult is that my husband categorically does not like the idea of a 5 y.o. attending a funeral. He will, however, let me choose whether my son attends. I will not allow him to go to the viewing, however, based on everything here, and having spoken to others, I will allow my son to attend. I will, however, have his paternal grandmother stay with him and allow him to leave with her if any of the funeral becomes too much for him. Once again, I thank you all so much for your help. Knowing that I can come here for help makes a difficult time less so.
