My son isn't like this, but he isn't hyper-independent either. I think all kids develop in these areas in different ways and at different speeds, and it is important to respect that. Doesn't mean you can't talk to them about what is going on (and if you find it stifling, I think it is fair to talk with the family and child about ways to help resolve the issue).
I guess if it was a new development, I would try to have some conversations to make sure nothing happened that caused the issue, but honestly, I think you are right to let them separate at their own speed.
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